Understanding Kids: OCD, Divorce, and Culturally Informed Therapy with Chandler Donny
On the latest episode of our mental health podcast, Dustin Oliver sits down with child and adolescent therapist Chandler Donny to explore the unique challenges and opportunities in modern therapy with young clients. From managing OCD in children to navigating the emotional toll of divorce, this episode offers a wealth of insight for parents, therapists, and educators alike.
Addressing OCD and Anxiety in Children
OCD symptoms in kids often go unnoticed or are mistaken for behavioral issues. Chandler explains how children may experience intrusive thoughts or compulsive behaviors that lead to distress, and why early intervention is crucial. Therapy, particularly cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and EMDR, can be transformative in helping children manage obsessive-compulsive tendencies and develop healthy coping skills.
The Emotional Impact of Divorce on Kids
Divorce can be a deeply unsettling experience for children, even when parents attempt to shield them from conflict. Chandler emphasizes that therapy provides a neutral, supportive space where children can process their feelings about family changes without guilt or pressure. He also highlights the importance of integrating parents into the therapeutic process—not as overseers, but as active participants in healing.
Building Rapport with Resistant or Withdrawn Clients
Many therapists know that building trust with children—especially those referred by concerned adults—can be difficult. Chandler offers strategies for connecting with kids who are resistant to therapy, including the use of play, curiosity, and a consistent, nonjudgmental presence. Rapport-building is especially important when addressing sensitive topics like identity, trauma, or family dynamics.
The Role of Cultural Understanding and Relational-Cultural Theory
Therapy isn’t one-size-fits-all. Chandler draws from Relational Cultural Theory to guide his work, emphasizing that empathy, connection, and cultural sensitivity are foundational to effective mental health care. Whether supporting LGBTQ youth or children from diverse cultural backgrounds, understanding a client’s lived experience is essential for fostering meaningful therapeutic relationships.
Why the Right Therapist Matters
The episode closes with an important reminder: finding the right therapist—someone who understands your child’s needs, communicates clearly, and works collaboratively—is often the first and most important step in the healing process.
Who This Episode Is For
Parents who are navigating their child’s emotional or behavioral challenges
Therapists and counselors working with children, teens, or families
Mental health students interested in child therapy, EMDR, and relational approaches
Educators and school counselors supporting students with OCD, anxiety, or family changes
Anyone curious about therapy and how it works for younger clients
Whether you’re considering therapy for your child or looking to deepen your own clinical practice, this episode offers valuable tools and perspectives.
